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Should our relationship continue?
Hey guys. I need some advice on a situation.
I am a senior in high school and have been dating my boyfriend (who is also a senior) for well over a year now. We started out getting to know each other as friends for about 6 months and then we finally started to date, and it was amazing. Everything was wonderful. He treated me so well, we had so much fun together and were not even physically intimate for a good 5 to 6 months. We were best friends in love (as corny as that sounds) and he has had such a positive impact on my life.
....Then things went downhill about 1.5 months ago. He started telling me that he felt 'weird' about me and that he just didnt feel as excited about our relationship anymore. He does not know why he started to feel weird all of a sudden but ever since that day, the relationship has not been the same. We fight a lot, have almost broken up a few times and I have been very sad that our relationship has shifted. I am a very affectionate, romantic person while he is not so much.
About a week ago, we almost broke up but then we talked after our fight and he said that he loves me, that he wants to be with me and that he is really sorry for making me upset. Ever since then, things have slowly started to get better. He took me out for breakfast the next morning and we hungout a few times. My only problem is that he just isnt as affectionate as I am. I said this to him and he says that he loves me but he just isn't like that. He just isn't an affectionate person. He gives me affection sometimes but not how he used to, and that is what upsets me. However, I don't want to break up with him over this issue because we have such an amazing friendship that is the foundation of this relationship and I feel like we are best friends. But I'm not sure..
My question is this normal? I feel like we are slowly crawling out of this relationship 'rut' but i don't want to let my guard down. Is it normal to discover that your S.O. is different then you? Is it normal to get into a rut like this? Do all relationships go through this, where you just realize that you show love in different ways? Should I stick with him?
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Sounds like something has changed and he's trying to play it off by saying he's not affectionate.
I would wait to see how things play out, but it kind of sounds like he's backing out of the relationship. Sometimes people can be great friends but they just don't work as significant others. It's a pretty normal thing to find out that there are some major differences between partners, but this seems different to me because it's not just a personality difference; it's a difference in how you two relate to each other, and that would be a problem for me. I guess see how everything plays out since you said things were getting somewhat better, but don't stick to a relationship that simply isn't working.
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I think that yes it is a normal thing. I've been through the exact same thing. He is doing this because he feels that he doesn't have to show his love and affection anymore because you are the one who is doing this.
So my advice is, to give him a chance to show his love to you by stepping back a little bit from him. He will feel that something is wrong and will start wondering why are you doing this. You have to give him space and chance to share his feeling to you... Good luck :)
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