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    How do you pursue a crush that doesn't at the moment like you?

    The title is my question. I've never actually done this before, but I really like this guy and I want to try. Any advice?

    Idk if it changes the advice, but I'm a girl crushing on a guy.

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    Be friends first.  Find something you have in common.  But don't try too hard to get him to like you.  Often, there's either something there or there isn't.  And don't act too into him unless he's also giving signals.  Once you're comfortable with him, you can flirt a little.  Flirting when you are uncomfortable often doesn't work.

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    Try to be nice, try to be friends with his friends, the important thing is that he notices you positiveley^^

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    The more he sees you having fun and being out-going, the more intrigued he'll be. And getting on the good side of his friends doesn't hurt either. Good luck

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    This is probably going to sound hackneyed and drab, but be yourself.  Honestly, I've liked a few girls, and the times when I wasn't myself and they liked the person I built myself up to be, I didn't feel happy with the relationship.  Even if he doesn't like the real you, then it just goes to show that you shouldn't want to be in a relationship with him anyway.

    It's okay to like him, but if you guys hang out in groups or in the social situation, don't let his perspective of you (or what you assume he'll think of you) govern your actions.  Be comfortable with yourself, and he should respond accordingly.

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    I would say, just don't come on too strong. He will take advantage of that!

    Be who you are, try to play up the qualities that you like in yourself, rather than what you think he might like, because if you're comfortable with who you are, he's going to notice. Flirt a little, but hold back from doing it too much ... I think if you go with your instincts, it'll be ok. He probably will realise that he likes you anyway, but don't act like something you're not, because if he falls for that, he's not the one for you - you can't keep faking it forever!

    Who you are is enough, I'm sure he'll fall for you soon enough. All the best! :)

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    I posted this in the comment section but whoa, you get points/levels here :O (jkjk)

    If being around your crush makes you feel kinda awkward and you're always looking for something to say, relax. Try to remind yourself that you're not aiming to impress (though, ultimately when you get to know the person better, you will) and just have 'em talk lots. People love to talk lots (about themselves) ;p

    So ask questions and listen actively. Mentally take notes! Haha develop a friendly rapport and then go from there =p

     

    + have good hygiene (smell niiiice/look neat); play "eye-tag"; smile a lot; say 'hi' a lot. eventually you'll work your way into his mind.

    MSN and his number would be the next step to talkin more :D

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