http://advice.datingish.com/ Dating advice en Sun, 27 May 2012 06:28:14 +0000 http://advice.datingish.com/topic/i-messed-up-and-i-miss-him?post=4449#post-4449 Sat, 26 May 2012 13:21:35 +0000 peggygrace2@xanga 4449@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p><a href="mailto:dr_k_healer_of.all_brokenheart@solution4u.com">dr_k_healer_of.all_brokenheart@solution4u.com</a> is very professional and caringspell caster, he offers support to all the people who contact him. Love is a very important part of our lives and he offers a service that can help all our dreams come true </p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/i-messed-up-and-i-miss-him?post=4448#post-4448 Sat, 26 May 2012 13:21:02 +0000 peggygrace2@xanga 4448@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p><a href="mailto:dr_k_healer_of.all_brokenheart@solution4u.com">dr_k_healer_of.all_brokenheart@solution4u.com</a> is very professional and caringspell caster, he offers support to all the people who contact him. Love is a very important part of our lives and he offers a service that can help all our dreams come true soon </p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/the-ex-factor-help?post=4447#post-4447 Sat, 26 May 2012 11:21:10 +0000 imaniray12@xanga 4447@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>you have not exagerrated i think actually i KNOW u did the right thing, coz this guy uv bin with for two years is much more worth thn sme guy who treatd u like an option :)</p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/the-ex-factor-help?post=4446#post-4446 Sat, 26 May 2012 10:48:34 +0000 TheDatingQueen 4446@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>Okay so I am in a relationship with someone I have been with for almost 2 years. I love him so much and I would never leave him.</p> <p>My ex broke up with me for someone else 5years ago but we remained friends for all this time. My ex recently expressed that he wished he did not make the mistake of leaving me, etc. I told him that it happened so long ago and it's okay. And it honestly is because I forgave him a long time ago, and if that had not happened I wouldn't have met the amazing guy I'm with now. The problem is that I am so in love with my current bf that I don't feel comfortable talking about the shoulda, coulda, woulda's with my ex. If my BF was reminiscing about his past I wouldn't like it. To be friends with your ex and recall certain events is okay, but to talk about how much you loved them and blah blah is just unnessesscary. I have expressed to my ex how I feel, and also told him that if he can not accept the boundaries and respect my relationship we wouldn't be able to continue our friendship. I also said that I really hope he can because we have been good friends all this time.&nbsp;</p> <p>Soo I Need To Know, Do You Think I Am Over Exaggerating? What Would You Have Done? And Do You TKhink I Did The Right Thing?&nbsp;</p> <p>Any And All Opinions Are Wanted And Needed. Thanks</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>&nbsp; </p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/should-i-suck-it-up-or-just-leave?post=4445#post-4445 Fri, 25 May 2012 21:13:11 +0000 TheDatingQueen 4445@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>Seems like you need to really think about how you <strong>TRULY</strong> feel! If you cant treat him the way you know he deserves to be treated, you should go. If you really love him though and your willing to put in some effort to make things work, seek counseling. They will be able to help you determine the <strong>"REAL"</strong> reason behind your actions. Maybe there is something hiding beneath the surface.</p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/i-dont-know-what-to-do-help-long?post=4444#post-4444 Fri, 25 May 2012 20:50:13 +0000 TheDatingQueen 4444@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>Lol, I Cant Wait!! :)</p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/i-dont-know-what-to-do-help-long?post=4443#post-4443 Fri, 25 May 2012 19:43:45 +0000 My_Only_May_Amelia@xanga 4443@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>thank you for your help! hearing this from someone who is unbiased towards my boyfriend and i make it all the more meaningful and real. i am sure i will be writing a "how do i cope" entry in a week or two and i am grateful to all and any advice &lt;3 thank you so much!</p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/i-dont-know-what-to-do-help-long?post=4442#post-4442 Fri, 25 May 2012 18:37:18 +0000 TheDatingQueen 4442@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>From what I have read it is my opinion that you both need to go your seperate ways. You are moving away really soon and that is not enough time to sort things through. I know you said that he wouldn't let you leave but truthfully, no one can make you stay. This is your first serious relationship and I know you probably want to hold on to it but from the sound of things holding on will only cause you more pain. Leaving hurts too but over time that will heal. Your young and have your whole life ahead of you to find your prince charming. I can only advise you, I cant make you do anything and this is soley my opinion.&nbsp;</p> <p>I hope something here will be of assistance to you! let me know how things go!</p> <p>**BEST WISHES**</p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/i-dont-know-what-to-do-help-long?post=4441#post-4441 Fri, 25 May 2012 16:50:10 +0000 My_Only_May_Amelia@xanga 4441@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>btw, i apologize if there are spelling and grammar errors. i wrote this after talking to him so i was not in the best of moods and was quite flustered. thanks in advance &lt;3</p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/i-dont-know-what-to-do-help-long?post=4440#post-4440 Fri, 25 May 2012 16:43:29 +0000 My_Only_May_Amelia@xanga 4440@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>i met my boyfriend of 2 years when i was a freshman in highschool and we started dating when i was 17 and he was 19. this is his second serious relationship and my first for everything. about 3 months into the relationship my family decided to relocate within the next year or two to the othe side of the country. i told him and he said where ever i went, he would follow. we got really close and he told me constantly that i was THE ONE. he wanted me to be the mother of his future children, he proposed (without a ring), we talked about what life together would be like. everything changed all of the sudden though. he would say cruel things, calls me horrible names saying they were "terms of endearment", he is extremely hypocritical and immature, he's gone to parties without me, hangs out with other girls, took back everything he ever said about marrying me and having kids, pushes me away on purpose (he's dmitted to it), etc. the list goes on and on. i know i am not perfect and that i, too, can be annoying, but i have worked on all the problems he&nbsp; has with me. he does have some severe emotional issues which he can't help, but he also doesn't want to seek any medical help. i feel like i have put my heart and soul into this realtionship and, in return, i have gotten little to nothing back. things have gotten better, but not by much. whenever i try to bring up a problem he starts to get very defensive and yells at me to "stop nagging" then we will get into a GIANT fight and 5 minutes later he"ll call me as if nothing happened. i am moving 3,000+ miles away in 4 weeks and he STILL seems to not really care about spending time with me. i am the one that calls, texts, or IM's first 95% of the time and i usually don't get a reply within the first 20 minute-1 hour. and when i call him he has conversations with people around him instead of me and when i IM him, he doesnt answer for 1/2 an hour and signs off mid conversation without telling me. i have tried to break up with him twice but he would start crying and say he knows he's a "piece of shit" but that he loves me. i love him, but not like i used to. when he acts like he used to in the beginning, all of my old feelings come back and i feel so happy but it is a rare occurence. i guess my question is....break up now or wait? i don't know what to do.</p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/stabbed-in-the-backyet-still-in-love?post=4439#post-4439 Fri, 25 May 2012 08:12:52 +0000 marylinejosh 4439@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>After being married for 23 years, my husband left me for another woman. I was so hurt. I did not want to live life without him in it. I contacted <a href="mailto:dr_k_healer_of.all_brokenheart@solution4u.com&nbsp;">dr_k_healer_of.all_brokenheart@solution4u.com&nbsp;</a> and he restored our relationship and made a stronger bond and committed and we are so much intimate and desirable for each other now.</p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/i-hate-my-bfs-long-hair?post=4438#post-4438 Fri, 25 May 2012 05:08:05 +0000 TheDatingQueen 4438@http://advice.datingish.com/ </p> <p>Lol This Is The Ideal Situation For&nbsp;<strong>Compromise</strong>.....</p> <p>Attraction Is A Huge Part Of Relationships! My BF Hated That I Cut My Hair Really Short (Like A Rihanna Cut A Year Or So Ago) And He Expressed That He Loved My Hair When It Was Long.&nbsp;Because My Hair Was Long When We VERY FIRST MET, I Grew My Hair Back Out And I Dont Plan To Cut It Again. Each Partner Is Responsible For Maintaining The Appeal That Was There From The Beginning. But Since Your Partner Isn't As Willing As I Was, You Need To Sit Him Down...Face To Face And Tell Him That You Grew Your Hair Out Because You Know He LIKES Long Hair, And You Feel Like It Is Unfair That He Knows How You Feel About His Hair And He Just Refuses To Bend. Let Him Know That His Shorter Hair Attracted You To Him And Now That It Is Soo Long and Messy You Just CAN NOT Do It Anymore And Something Has To Give. This May Call For Some Flexibility On Your End But Since You Said It Was Messy, Greasy And Unruly, Maybe If He Tames It, Cuts It Down Some And Keeps It Fresh It May Make A Difference. &nbsp;I Hope Something Here Will Be Of Some Assistance.&nbsp;<strong>&nbsp;P.S IF ALL ELSE FAILS TELL HIM IF HE DOESNT CUT HIS HAIR YOUR GOING AMBER ROSE ON HIM!&nbsp;<img src="http://advice.datingish.com/my-plugins/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/img/laughing.gif" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" />&nbsp;Lol I Am Just Kidding :)</strong></p> <p><strong>**Google Her Images If YDK Who She Is**</strong></p> <p><strong>**BEST WISHES**</strong></p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/unbelievably-upset?post=4437#post-4437 Fri, 25 May 2012 02:53:54 +0000 TheDatingQueen 4437@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>I Am So Proud Of You For Taking Back Control Of The Situation and Letting Him Know That "NO" We Cannot Talk Now On Your Time Just Because You Feel Like It And You Think You Running Things. You Basically Said This Is Kristin_Joy_Mcguire's World And Im Running Things! &amp;&amp; You Did It With Class....Please Try Find Closure In What I Just Said And DO NOT SEND HIM THAT LETTER! The Reason I Say Dont Send It V.S DONT WRITE IT Is Because Writing Is So Theraputic To Me, It Gives Me This Feeling Of Reassurance And Hope...So Yeah Write... And Dont Stop Until You Get It All Out...Honestly If You Want I Will Personally Msg You My Address So You Can Mail It To Me If You Want. <strong>"You Already Have Control .. Please Dont Give It Back" </strong>And I Agree With @SingleGirl29 Please Seek Counseling It Will Help In A Tremendous Way.</p> <p>BEST WISHES&nbsp;<img src="http://advice.datingish.com/my-plugins/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/img/smooch.gif" alt="Smooch" title="Smooch" /></p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/tell-boyfriend-everything?post=4436#post-4436 Fri, 25 May 2012 02:41:31 +0000 TheDatingQueen 4436@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>Wow, This Is Like Amazin Because My Cousin And I Literally *JUST* Finished Talking About This. The Way Your BF Has Been Acting Is Exactly How She Is! Lol Respect Has Nothing To Do With It, In My Opinion Anyway, And You May Want To Ask Him About This But I Get The Feeling That..</p> <p>A) There Is A Lack Of Trust And He Feels Like You Have A Reason To Hide Something. (With The Not Telling Him You Were Off) Me Personally Tho My BF Is My BEST Friend And Yea I Tell Him Everything Cause He Is My Fav Person To Talk To (Besides Datingish Now Lol)</p> <p>But Like Wtf? Can't A Lady Get A Half Of Day To Relax.....With Herself......Without Questions? #SHEESH</p> <p>B) He May Feel Like Your More Distant Lately Than Usual And You Dont Wanna Be Bothered With Him. (The Calling Him Back Thing)</p> <p>If So Just Let Him Know That You Had No Intensions Of Coming Off Like You Didn't Want To Be Bothered. (But Truth Is Girl You Prolly Was Irritated Cause My Food Gets My UNDIVIDED Attention #ImJustSaying LMAO )</p> <p>Hope This Helped You!</p> <p>BEST WISHES TTYL!</p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/tell-boyfriend-everything?post=4435#post-4435 Fri, 25 May 2012 00:37:21 +0000 Pertaining2me@xanga 4435@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>I have a question ladies. Do you tell your boyfriend everything? Like for example, I got off work early one day and I didn't call my boyfriend to tell him I was off. I went to the stores and just looked around. I love to go to stores its like my gateway and free time. I can spend hours just browsing.</p> <p>He got really mad that i didn't call him or tell him that I got off early and he just started tripping off it. I was like wtf...??? he said its sort of a respect thing... I don't get&nbsp; whats the issue here.And also what is respect really? I mean besides the fact of not doing anything with another man because you have a boyfriend.</p> <p>also today while i was at work, i told him i am on my lunch finally and that i was starving.</p> <p>he called me while i was eating and i told him that i will call him right back. he got irritated and was like, you dont have to act like that when i call you. i was like... ok????</p> <p>im freaking eating wtf i dont like to be bothered when i am at work.</p> <p>any advice would be greatly appreciated.</p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/feeling-hopeless?post=4434#post-4434 Thu, 24 May 2012 00:31:24 +0000 imaniray12@xanga 4434@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>thank you so much i really needed to hear that :)</p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/feeling-hopeless?post=4433#post-4433 Wed, 23 May 2012 17:50:26 +0000 TheDatingQueen 4433@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>Hey Honey!&nbsp;</p> <p>I Know How You Feel....TRUST ME I DO!</p> <p>Number One: STOP HOOKING UP WITH HIM!</p> <p>** Tell Him That You Respect Yourself And You Feel Like You Deserve More **</p> <p>You SHOULD NOT Keep Hooking Up With Him Whenever He See's Fit</p> <p>Also It's Not Cool To Just NOT Hear From Him For Lenghty Periods Of Time Until He Wants To Hook Up Again.</p> <p>Guys Are Attracted To Women Who Respect Themselves And Are Confident! These Are Both Qualities Im Sure You Have.</p> <p>It Wont Be Easy To Just Forget Him But Indulge Yourself With Friends And Hang Out.</p> <p>You Dont Want To Just Sit In The House And Do Nothing Because It Makes It Harder....</p> <p>But Honestly Nothing Will Heal Your Heart Better Than Time.... Just Be Patient!</p> <p>And I Know You Probably Dont Want To Hear That But It's The Honest Truth.</p> <p>I Know It Doesn't Feel Like It Now, But<strong> IT WILL GET BETTER!</strong></p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/a-sort-of-fwb-with-an-ex?post=4432#post-4432 Wed, 23 May 2012 17:28:16 +0000 TheDatingQueen 4432@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>I Understand How You Feel, and Although It's Not Completely The Same Entirely A Friend Of Mine Is Kinda Going Through The Same Thing.</p> <p>If Your Not Looking To Be In A Relationship And Your Not Looking For More... Everything Is Fine. As Long As You Guys Have A Mutual Understanding On What You Have And Your Both Content...</p> <p><strong>Go For It, </strong></p> <p>As Long As Your Not Just Into It Because You Feel Like Its The Only Way To Keep Him Close Or Fill The Void Of What You USE To Have Back When You Were Together.</p> <p>**BEST WISHES**</p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/a-sort-of-fwb-with-an-ex?post=4431#post-4431 Wed, 23 May 2012 14:34:28 +0000 imaniray12@xanga 4431@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>i am sooo in the same situation and im really confused but what i can say is that i ended up getting hurt because i still love him and its like he's moving on so i hve to let go its really hard but i hope time will heal my broken heart.</p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/feeling-hopeless?post=4430#post-4430 Wed, 23 May 2012 14:02:49 +0000 imaniray12@xanga 4430@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>ok so i got a problem see i went out with this guy for 11 months and we ended up loving each other, then out of the blue he broke up with me saying he's leaving me for another girl. it bloody hurt and the first few months were hell. so i tried the no contact rule but we ended up hooking up a few times and on new years we kissed but he told me he's not looking for anything serious. after that we dint talk for a while but around last month we hookd up again and again he became cold. so i have tried to find new hobbies to do and they dont seem to be working, and when guys ask me out they just want sex from me not a serious relationship and i feel hopeless cause he seems to be moving on cause he's always talking with other girls and flirting with them &nbsp;and am stuck in my crappy corner i dont know what to do anymore i feel really hopeless cause there is noone i can talk to who will understand me they'll just say move on but they really dont know its easier said than done. i dont know what to do please advice</p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/unbelievably-upset?post=4429#post-4429 Tue, 22 May 2012 16:54:35 +0000 singlegirl29 4429@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>Don't even respond. My ex was exactly the same way, and my hearts breaks for you. I too had a miscarriage and being a mother with empty arms is truly the most gut-wrenching feeling in the world, but if you keep responding to him, he will still be insinuatinf himself into your life. I finally set my ex free, my situations was so errily similar to yours. Please, please, just walk away and don't &nbsp;look back!</p> <p>PS. Seek counseling, it will help with the rape and the miscarriage, trust me, I know.&nbsp;</p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/choosing-between-two-men?post=4428#post-4428 Sat, 19 May 2012 17:04:03 +0000 Pertaining2me@xanga 4428@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>The one who hurts you does not LOVE you. Walk away from him and if you want, give the other guy a chance. Be friends with guy #2 and see where it goes. Good luck! :)</p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/starting-to-like-my-friendwbenefits-what-should-i-do?post=4427#post-4427 Sat, 19 May 2012 17:01:20 +0000 Pertaining2me@xanga 4427@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>In a FWB, someone always gets hurt in the end. One of you start developing more feelings and this case its you. Tell him that you want to stop&nbsp;doing the FWB because you *LIKE* him. Ask him where he stands. Does he want to date you exclusively? If not, I suggest you stop. Good luck!</p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/when-is-too-soon-too-soon-to-move-in?post=4426#post-4426 Sat, 19 May 2012 16:50:52 +0000 Pertaining2me@xanga 4426@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>If you have to ask, then it *might* be too soon. But, if YOU KNOW that this is the person you want to be with ...like maybe marry them in the future, it doesnt hurt to try it out. If it doesn't work out obviously it wasn't meant to be.</p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/why-is-he-doing-this?post=4425#post-4425 Sat, 19 May 2012 06:04:48 +0000 YvetteGH@xanga 4425@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; I finally got my love spell results after three days! I am so grateful <br /><a href="mailto:dr_k_healer_of.all_brokenheart@solution4u.com">dr_k_healer_of.all_brokenheart@solution4u.com</a>, that he is able to bring back my departed lover who broke up with me three weeks ago, I would advise anyone whose relationship maybe in trouble to feel free and comfortable to contact him.</p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/should-i-suck-it-up-or-just-leave?post=4424#post-4424 Fri, 18 May 2012 20:52:24 +0000 sam10321@xanga 4424@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>Seems like it's a you problem.&nbsp; Are you depressed?&nbsp; Why do you feel you don't deserve him?&nbsp; If he's there, he must love you too - why would you break up over that?&nbsp; I wouldn't call it 'sucking it up' - but maybe put yourself in perspective.&nbsp;</p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/unbelievably-upset?post=4423#post-4423 Fri, 18 May 2012 18:20:58 +0000 sam10321@xanga 4423@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>Don't write him a letter.&nbsp; That gives you control.&nbsp;</p> <p>Just leave it - be done.&nbsp; Toxic people are hard to get rid of; but when you do, life is so much better.</p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/i-hate-my-bfs-long-hair?post=4422#post-4422 Fri, 18 May 2012 18:16:36 +0000 sam10321@xanga 4422@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>I met my boyfriend about 3 1/2 years ago.&nbsp; He was very cute - I was very attached.&nbsp; We started dated; now we live together.&nbsp; When I met him, he had short hair - it was a little shaggy, but he wore it well.&nbsp; It was VERY cute.</p> <p>Well, 3 1/2 years later he's never gotten a hair cut.&nbsp; It's wavy, unruly, sloppy, messy, greasy, gross, long, and hairy.&nbsp; I don't like it. He's beginning to get a little thin up top, it's just gross.&nbsp; I HATE IT.&nbsp; I'm not shy - he knows how I feel.&nbsp; I'm not attracted to him with long hair.&nbsp; It grosses me out.&nbsp; It's a giant turn off.&nbsp; It's always in my face; when we had sex and he was on top, he never tried to get it out of my face; when we're cuddling, it's ALWAYS there!&nbsp; I'm not saying I don't have long hair, but he LIKES GIRLS WITH LONG HAIR.&nbsp; So I grew it out for him!&nbsp; When we're cuddling, I tuck it away, so it's not in his face. What can I do?</p> <p>Well, about 3 weeks ago, we got into a big fight about his hair.&nbsp; I may have gave him an ultimatum - no sex until his hair gets cut.&nbsp; I've done this before; he got a 'trim' which is NOT a cut.&nbsp; I'm not falling for that again.&nbsp; I want it CUT.&nbsp; He's got plenty to donate (which he was using that excuse for a while, but it's WAY LONGER THAN 9 INCHES NOW!!).&nbsp;</p> <p>Well, we haven't had sex.&nbsp; Am I selfish?&nbsp; I mean, I put up with it for 3 years, can't I get a turn with him with short hair?&nbsp; I love him; I do, he's my best friend.&nbsp; It's just not attractive.&nbsp; I'm not attracted to him.&nbsp; What should I do?&nbsp; I'm in a lose/lose situation, and I don't know how to get out :(</p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/unbelievably-upset?post=4421#post-4421 Fri, 18 May 2012 13:40:25 +0000 Kristin_Joy_McGuire@xanga 4421@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>So here's the deal. My ex boyfriend broke up 10 months ago. We have not really talked since then except for a couple times in february and once last month to sit and talk about what went wrong in our relationship so that we might be able to move forward as friends. Well needless to say in our relationship we did have sex and I did end up having a miscarriage which I conceled from him because I didn't think it was important. I did end up telling him and he was extremely upset and even cried....it was an interesting day.</p> <p>One thing I should mention before I go on is that this guy was controlling to the extreme in our relaitionship. &nbsp;In fact i lost my virginity to him but only because he forced it. So basically I was raped.....don't ask me why I stayed with him. To this day I don't know why, but I am past it now and not even sure I even want to be friends with him. To be honest, I sort of told him about the miscarriage so that he might feel like crap. It's bad but I didn't have a life with him. He controlled everything and it was miserable.</p> <p>Anyways, Mothers day was coming up and needless to say I was feeling a little down because had I not had a miscarriage I would have a child in my arms right now. I was doing ok though until Saturday. A package of flowers came in the mail for me from him! Basically telling me that "I know you can't hold your baby girl in your arms right now, but Jesus is holding her for you. Happy Mothers Day" I was furiouse as you might imagine and I tried to call him to give him a piece of my mind. &nbsp;He didn't answer but instead texted me and said he was in the middle of something, can it wait till Monday. I obviously said it couldn't and that he needed to call me or don't bother calling me ever again. He then returned a message to me and was angry that I would even say that. First of all, he knew why I was angry, and second of all, it was a ploy so he would be in control of the situatio and not me. He hasn't called me yet.</p> <p>Last night I got a text saying "I feel like crap, can we meet up to talk about it?" I said no and told him I would be sending him a letter in the mail telling explaining everything.&nbsp;</p> <p>I guess the point of the long story is this. How do I even begin to write this letter. I'm upset but I don't want to rage uncontrolably at him yet I don't want to be like 'hey that hurt please don't do it again" either......this may be stupid to ask but, what would you write?</p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/should-i-just-ask-if-hes-interested-in-me?post=4420#post-4420 Fri, 18 May 2012 13:11:00 +0000 Kristin_Joy_McGuire@xanga 4420@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>I definitely think you should ask him. From what you have said it looks like you know each other pretty well and are comfortable being around each other. The fact that you guys cuddle is a big sign to me that he's interested. I don't think he will freak out. A lot of times guys find it attractive when the female is assertive. While I am old fashioned and I like the man to come to me, a little push in the right direction every once and a while isn't a bad thing. I say take the risk and ask him :)</p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/should-i-just-ask-if-hes-interested-in-me?post=4419#post-4419 Fri, 18 May 2012 04:44:42 +0000 Shy 4419@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>Lately I feel as if my gage for a guy's interest in me has been off. We'll go on roadtrips together, have great conversations, go out with friends, cuddle, but nothing serious would come of it. I'm tempted to just flat out ask, "Hey, question for you. Are you at all interested in me?" but &nbsp;I fear doing so might freak him out. How do guys respond to that type of bluntness? Is it a move I should consider?</p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/should-i-suck-it-up-or-just-leave?post=4418#post-4418 Wed, 16 May 2012 23:03:14 +0000 lovelikerockets422@xanga 4418@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>My boyfriend have been dating for almost 10 months now, and he's amazing... so funny and respectful and sweet and selfless. He does everything for me and pours out his heart everyday for me. He cried over me once and I felt so horrible for hurting his feelings because I've never really heard a guy cry before...</p> <p> Lately I've been getting so annoyed with him at things I'd usually find hilarious and cute. I am so irritated at him today that I've almost said, "I'm done" several times... but I get all teary eyed when I think of being without him. I really do love him, I just can feel that I haven't been myself lately and he's annoying me...and I feel so bad because I know he would never say anything so hurtful to me.. I told him he was irritating me so we could talk it out, and he got so upset. </p> <p> I'm just sick of fighting with him over every little thing. Sure, I'm neurotic and he puts up with me, but this is just aggravating. I love him so much, but I feel like I don't deserve him and I'm so close to the point of leaving him because of how mean I am to him sometimes.<br /> What do you think I should do? Stay or go?</p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/i-messed-up-and-i-miss-him?post=4417#post-4417 Wed, 16 May 2012 07:23:01 +0000 trishapey@xanga 4417@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>&nbsp;i am trisha, i want to use this opportunity to share with my testimony how this spell caster <a href="mailto:dr_k_healer_of.all_brokenheart@solution4u.com">dr_k_healer_of.all_brokenheart@solution4u.com</a> brought back my lover when i was out of help, Magic is not evil.&nbsp; It is up to you to contac him if you are in the same situation as mine, mine is solved and solved forever as i believed</p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/did-i-over-react-1?post=4416#post-4416 Tue, 15 May 2012 17:54:22 +0000 TinkerTrae@xanga 4416@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p>I am actually dealing with a similar situation right now.</p> <p>I think you did the right thing. If he doesn't want the same thing as you, there is no point in wasting your time. You may love him, but is he worth giving up your dreams of marriage and children? I guarentee you, if you stayed with him and didn't get married or have kids you would resent him. Make sure that you are 100% sure that you want to get married again and have kids before you lose him over it though (that is my problem right now).</p> <p>Also, I think the fact that he isn't close with his family is a big red flag. I can't really put into words why, but that would worry me.</p> <p>I hope I helped a little. Good luck! :)</p> http://advice.datingish.com/topic/did-i-over-react-1?post=4415#post-4415 Fri, 11 May 2012 12:33:21 +0000 RNmama9@xanga 4415@http://advice.datingish.com/ <p> &lt;div class="questiontext" style="font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px; margin-top: 20px; width: 789px; font-family: Arial, geneva, lucida, 'lucida grande', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;"&gt;Hello, I'm a 39 yr old divorced woman with no children. I've been dating a 40 yr old man (no kids, never married) for over 9 months. Earlier in our relationship he said he was open to having kids, but also added that if he loved someone that did NOT want children, he wouldn't leave her over it. I remember telling him, "well you don't seem very passionate on having kids", he simply responded that he understood it sounded that way, but that wasn't the case.&nbsp;</p> <p>About 4 months ago, the conversations came up again, and this time he told me that he wasn't sure if he wanted children and he wasn't sure about marriage, and would just cross that bridge when the time was right. He seemed very uncomfortable and looked like a deer in headlights! I was upset, but he somehow schmoozed me into getting over it, and we were all lovey dovey again.</p> <p>He is very sweet to me, caring, and I trust him completely, He always wants to be together, and we always spend our nights together at my place or his.&nbsp;</p> <p>I was ready to end the relationship a few weeks ago (although I didn't tell him so), because he had yet to tell me he loved me, and I felt that if he didn't feel that he has love for me by now, he probably never would. He told me a few days after that that he loved me, I was happy and told him i love him too.</p> <p>However, I began doubting our relationship, because he's so shy and conservative, that he never really talks or ask questions about our relationship. He is not close to his mother or siblings at all, which is strange to me. When I ask him about why, he simply says "I was always alone, so I grew up very independent". They barely talk, and his father died when he was young. I'm very close with my mother, and I've often heard that you should watch how a man acts with his family, and that will show what kind of man he is. Well, he is NOT close with his family at all, but he's always wanting to be with me, that's good isn't it? When my m other visits from overseas, he's gets along so well with her. I just can't seem to understand it.</p> <p>Anyway, my dilemma is - Last nite, I finally snapped and told him that I was tired of him always buying things for my place and then the same thing for his place. I told him it shows me that he doesn't see me as really having a future together if we always have to have for example, a $400 juicer at my place, and then if he likes it, he will buy one for his place too. I told him last nite, that I want him to figure out what he wants in life, because "I don't know" isn't a fair answer for me. He's not 20 or 30, he's 40, and I just want a straight answer that no, he doesn't want children or marriage, or that yes, he would like that for himself in the near future.&nbsp;<br />(I told him that I want to be with someone that has the same goals as I do and a few of those goals are being married and trying to have a child in the next year or two). He told me that he feels the problem is that I feel 9 months is enough time to have a conversation about cohabitation, but for him it's not. He says he's still trying to see how well we get along. I can't help but think how his best friend was engaged to girl after 8 months of dating, and they only saw each other on the weekends - We see each other EVERYDAY! I'm afraid that I got caught up with my emotions, and should have waited a little while longer, or if I made the right choice. I told him that I don't need to get married right now or in the next 6 months, just want to know if we both have the same goals of wanting marriage and a child later down the road.</p> <p>I told him to think about what he wants in life. For him to take a month, 3 months, hell even a year if he needs to, and if he realizes that he wants the same things i do in life, and if I'm still available and he's still available, that then maybe we can try again.</p> <p>Right now I regret saying this. I didn't even let him respond. I told him to think about what he wanted for himself in life, and then I told him, "I love you, and I'll miss you, goodbye".</p> <p>I'm hoping he will come back to me, but I don 't know. I do know I'm lonely and miss him so much. My heart is aching and I can't stop crying.</p> <p>Did I get caught up in my emotions and over react? Should I email or call him and tell him that I want to talk? I hate to do this after I did all that, but I keep thinking how he said, "so we're not going to have a discussion over this?". And I said no. He then said, "so what do u want me to do?", I said, "I want you to figure out want you want in life".</p> <p>My birthday is in the next 10 days, and I fear I will not even hear from him. Did I make a mistake? Was I wrong in telling him all this? I don't think I gave him an ultimatum, did i?</p> <p>Any comments or advice would be greatly appreciated.</p> <p>Thank you<br /> &lt;br style="font-family: Arial, geneva, lucida, 'lucida grande', arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;" /&gt;</p>